Married to my Work

In preparation of getting married, I recently read an online article entitled "Why Nagging Doesn't Work." This photo is the main kitchenette (female kitchen?) in my office. Note the 7 nagging signs posted by the admin(s).

  • 3 signs confirm that "We do NOT have a maid service"
  • 3 instances of "Thank you" or "Please" followed by 2+ exclamation marks
  • 3 signs stating "YOU" as the root problem
  • 2 ultimatums
  • 1 frowny face
  • 1 passive-aggressive Dilbert comic
Per the article, all of the above bullet points are in violation of being a nag. This style of communication clearly isn't working.

In true marriage style, I will not submit to this one-sided barrage. Rather, I will slowly but surely stir the pot of crazy. I plan to hang 1 additional nagging sign (not a retort, but in step with these) each week until something of significance occurs (i.e. a meltdown). Please submit your ideas.


Is Intensity Bad?

After reading an Outside magazine article entitled 'The Age of Adventure', written around the subject of longevity, I question whether intensity, of any kind, is good. The article primarily discusses physical health and extending one's life expectancy. However, the end of the article touches on happiness. This was partly a plug for a new book, yet seems to round out the underlying message of "wellness" (a balance of physical and mental health).

The article was certainly written to entice readers to seek out the big picture of wellness (preferably by buying the new book). This new book seeks to conclude that "there's an inverse relationship between happiness and over-accomplishment." How well would this message go over with most non-lazy people? Although I mostly agree with it now, my initial reaction was quite the opposite.

I liken "over-accomplishment" to the physical intensity discussed in the magazine article. We seem to be ever-increasingly obsessed with intensity (physical and mental). Intensity comes in many forms and obscurities, affects us throughout many points of our lives, and is simultaneously scoffed at and praised. On one hand, I admire the hard work that is reflected by intensity. At the same time, the extreme-nature that intensity embodies seems to perpetuate towards the unproductive/diminishing returns/irrelevancy.

It goes back to the old adage "everything in moderation." Yet we go nuts for intensity. The following examples, on the surface, are a badge of accomplishment yet rarely lead to long-term fulfillment/happiness:
  • Ironman or Marathons
  • Pulling All-Nighters
  • Airline Mileage Status
Too much intensity causes burnout, which similar waking up after a bender, is not a positive habit. It seems to me that while the benefits of intensity are enjoyed in the short-term (pride; accomplishment), the detriments affect us in the long-term (bad knees; anxiety; lack of balance).